Stop Trying To Be A Christian

Update (2017) Here is a drafted blogpost I wrote two years ago that has finally been published today. My thoughts (and writing style) have changed somewhat in the past two years, but the central convictions are the same. Later, I will follow up with something else I’ve been thinking about: What does it mean to be an “authentic” Christian?…

Self-Improvement and Holiness 

Often I have found myself wanting self-improvement more than holiness… These words I wrote in my journal months ago. As I began to ponder the statement, I began to realize just how different the two really are. self-im·prove·ment noun 1. the improvement of one’s knowledge, status, or character by one’s own efforts. (Dictionary.com) Holiness (starting…

Choose This Day Whom You Will Serve

The day we agonized over has come and gone: Election Day 2016.  Now therefore, O kings, be wise; be warned, O rulers of the earth. Serve the Lord with fear, and rejoice with trembling. Kiss the Son, lest he be angry, and you perish in the way, for his wrath is quickly kindled. Blessed are…

The Finish Line: Why Not to Quit Pursuing Marriage

Heartache is brutal. We get hurt and hurt each other for a multitude of reasons: regret, resentment, rejection, and many other things that hurt just as much as the others. Sometimes there are moments that cause you to relive the heartache all over again. It’s like the wounds start to heal, but they can easily hurt…

Romance Is Dead

          Christianity is not romantic; it is realistic. – Francis Schaeffer (The God Who Is There) As I reach further into my mid-20’s, I’m beginning to take all the theories I had about dating and romance earlier in life and start questioning if they really hold up in life right now….

The Search For Identity

Lately, I’ve been obsessed with this system of personality assessments called the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI for short). This personality test has become somewhat of an updated version of the ever-popular horoscope. Through self-assessment, and a list of either/or-fit-within-a-spectrum questions, one achieves a better understanding of himself or herself- at least, that’s the goal. My…

The Narratives of Man

The narrative is an interesting device. With it, we can retell events exactly as they occurred, or leave some details out to point out a single theme in a series of events. The narrative can recollect history, or rewrite it. One could even use it to tell a new story altogether, leaving behind the truth….

The Inner Dialogue Of A Single Christian  

     It’s strange. When I was younger, the thought of marriage was something that gave me joy. I remember being a teenager and wishing that I had found someone who wanted to understand me and spend their life with me. I wanted someone who would be my best friend; someone with whom I could have…

The Extraordinarily Single Christian Life

The Christian life is meant to be lived. The words “extraordinary” and “single” may seem like contradictions. Singleness often feels like this jungle where you lack the stability that you want, and experience frustration at how difficult life seems. It seems like this maze of disappointments, heartache, turmoil, and you keep hoping God will provide…

I Am Imperfect

Every day I wake up to the startling reality that I am not perfect. “Startling” may not be the word those closest to me would use. Perhaps “obvious” would a better word. It’s starting because every day I discover anew how far I am from perfection; how far I had been off target all along….

The Husband I Want To Be (Someday)

It seems like in the past year, marriage has been on my mind more than ever before. Perhaps it’s the further transition into adulthood that has sparked the interest, or maybe it’s just not wanting to be “alone” for the rest of my life. Biblically-speaking,I know the Lord is with me (Psalm 4:4), I know…

The Insanity of Sin

Sin is insanity.  This week marked one year since the death of Robin Williams. So yesterday, in his memory, I decided to watch one of his films. I chose Patch Adams. The film begins with Robin Williams character turning himself into a mental hospital because of suicidal thoughts. . Throughout the opening scenes of the…